The Gift of Parenthood
I think that, as parents, we need to create space, offer grace, and respect pace. That means all of our inter-personal encounters with our loved ones need to be graceful. We create spaces where they feel safe to grow and thrive at their own pace. That sometimes means allowing room for mistakes.
If we are not invested and emotionally available, we might miss many golden opportunities to mold those beautiful little creatures called children into competent productive members of society.
This can be difficult when there is trauma in the background. Children of trauma, especially trauma caused by a parent, might have shattered core beliefs and distorted sense of identity and self-worth.
Attachment is the connection parents have with their children. When children have a secure bond with their caregivers, they grow up with a sense of safety. When that special bond is broken because of abuse or neglect or other forms of trauma, children might grow up with confused and distorted beliefs. They might no longer believe that the world is a safe place or that adults can be trusted. Imagine how it feels like for children to grow up questioning everything and everyone around them.
Because trauma can literally steal the voice of its survivor, attachment is very important in bringing back some sense of safety and sanity that would allow children to share their story and get that heavy burden off their shoulders. Trauma is the big invisible elephant in the room, it seems like we need to give each other permission to start talking about it. When you talk about something frightening, you take away some of its power over you.
If we are not invested and emotionally available, we might miss many golden opportunities to mold those beautiful little creatures called children into competent productive members of society.
This can be difficult when there is trauma in the background. Children of trauma, especially trauma caused by a parent, might have shattered core beliefs and distorted sense of identity and self-worth.
Attachment is the connection parents have with their children. When children have a secure bond with their caregivers, they grow up with a sense of safety. When that special bond is broken because of abuse or neglect or other forms of trauma, children might grow up with confused and distorted beliefs. They might no longer believe that the world is a safe place or that adults can be trusted. Imagine how it feels like for children to grow up questioning everything and everyone around them.
Because trauma can literally steal the voice of its survivor, attachment is very important in bringing back some sense of safety and sanity that would allow children to share their story and get that heavy burden off their shoulders. Trauma is the big invisible elephant in the room, it seems like we need to give each other permission to start talking about it. When you talk about something frightening, you take away some of its power over you.
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